The core belief of worry is - Am I okay? There are different types of worry - useful and unproductive. How do we help ourselves know the difference and unwind out of unproductive worry?

I almost cried in a session. I sat there listening to my client tell me how she said "no". Her first "no". This was the beginning of her confidence and trust building with herself. She could withstand the uncomfortableness and stand up for herself. Hallelujah\n

I am not sure I have ever been in a place like this before. It was my tipping point. A clear as day message to myself, "I create my own suffering." So now what? No one is going to lead the charge to change but me. Crap. Well, here goes nothing.

Decisions are way more challenging than I want them to be. Why? My typical play in life is to make sure there is little conflict with people. So not only do I worry how my decision will affect others, but I doubt my ability to even get the words out.

My experience with boundaries used to be an intellectual understanding and a "should". I sort of stated them when I was angry enough, but even then they still came out in this mumbled flimsy manner.

If you saw me as a teenager, you would not have believed I was a people pleaser. I was SO ANGRY. Inside. My friends voted me Most Likely to Give In as a senior superlative. Anger was powerful to me, but I had to keep it hidden. I had the belief - anger gets you nowhere.